As a med student I am supposed to have great stories about
crazy post exam shenanigans. But mostly they all end up the same: everyone gets
drunk and complains about the unfairness of the test.
Dead Until Proven Otherwise
Friday, June 8, 2012
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
Relationships
Don’t do it! They bring you nothing but misery! Well, alright I’m
not the best authority on this. I have trust issues, which sharply distinguishes
me from the rest of mankind. But the reality is you cannot cultivate your own
garden let alone have a codependent one. Citing the experiences of others, the
person that should give one strength and support is often the greatest cause of
troubles, and they have little fault. Dating a medical student is difficult
because it is essentially being slave to a narcissist. We always come first;
our needs always supersede the needs of the significant other. The med student does need to be studying for a test at
literally every waking moment and cannot call or go on a date. Or he might need
to desperately do 5 loads of laundry because the only clean thing left is a senior
prom dress. To someone who has never had the work load of plow ox and the time
management of a sloth, that seems preposterous and hyperbolic. But it’s not. We
are busy. We are also incredibly lazy and majestically skilled at
procrastination and time wasting. It is however necessary, distractions serve
to maintain sanity. I can only study for so long before I lose the will to
live. The significant other meanwhile feels neglected and unappreciated. They
patiently wait for a scrap of free time and all any of us can do is talk about…
wait for it… school. This free time is often with classmates, which leads to inadvertent
inside jokes and ever more exclusion of the significant other and isolation. This
causes more tension and fighting. So everyone is unhappy. The tragedy is validity of argument of both
parties.
So then dear reader you might ask, what about dating other med students?
That might be an even worse plan because med student are inherently emotionally
damaged people. Most of us come from various tragedies and becoming doctors is
a way to heal ourselves, or for those of us, like me, who do not want to deal
with our own problems, we want to fix a broken world. There are exceptions, and
there are great couples that come into being, eventually marry and breed future
med students. The rest of “medcest” pairings end roughly the same way. I will
use a friend to illustrate, since my only real attempt to date another med
student concluded in me drunkenly punching him in the solar plexus after trying
to ask him out. I don’t know why, don’t ask me. That and when I drunkenly
flirted with one of the girls. But back to my friend and her torrid med school
romances. The reactions of the men she dated in school reflect the larger
attitude of single med students of all sexes: apprehension, distrust, and
disinterest. Med school is a perfect mask to hide weak, tender-hearted
individuals that have disconnected from themselves. Being tired, overworked,
and chained to a stack of books serves as an excellent distraction from any
emotion one might have about a significant other. So her boyfriends ran away from
her in a method befitting med students: after a few great dates they simply grew
distant, quoted studying as the reason, and waited for her to grow angry,
insulted, and send them (and their sex pili) on their educational way.
Friday, June 1, 2012
A Real Human Being and a Real Hero
I will never forget when I snapped a person’s jaw in half
with garden clippers. No, this is not an account of a murder of a review notes
cadge. This is anatomy lab, a place full of magic, mystery and liquefied fat
stains on your scrubs. It also has the added bonus of testing the validity of
any violent fantasies one has ever had; no better way to find out what serial
killing is like than to systematically disassemble a human in the name of
science.
My cadaver was a wispy old woman, Ellie, whom I grew to
love. One of the hardest moments of med school and maybe even my life was to
put all of her pieces in a body bag and say goodbye. We gave her flowers. Truthfully
there were days that I did not want to be there. I did not want to clean out
her thoracic cavity full of congealed mucus (which has the consistency of
spoiled cottage cheese). Nor did I want to tie off her intestines with plastic
neon-pink ribbon, normally used to wrap presents, before removing her bowels
and praying to every deity that I would not perforate them and spill out
formaldehyde-preserved waste. But I never forgot her sacrifice to us. Thus I’ve
decided that when I die I want to donate my body to a bunch of incompetent med
students that will massacre it, although I plan to tattoo some helpful hints on
myself to guide them.
Lab is also an especially terrible place for hangovers.
After a post exam shindig people are seen darting out for oxygen breaks far
more than usually. The occasional overachiever can be observed with an airplane
style vomit baggie sticking out of his lab coat pocket. I’ve always felt especially
badly for the groups that had the poorly preserved bodies, which were basically
decomposing corpses they had the pleasure of digging through. Walk by that and
keep your lunch. I dare you.
For the few moments I wanted to steal one of those vomit
baggies, there were many more majestic ones. I held a human heart, many hearts
actually, and removed the brain, which proved to be a difficult task – it’s
really stuck in there. I saw the intricacy of human hand, a surprisingly simple
system considering that we can write, paint, touch and profoundly manipulate our
world because of our hands. I used my hands to delicately dissect the neck with
miniscule scissors, working for hours to unveil the astounding complexity of the
machinery that helps run our face and brain. The irony is that for all of impressive
things our body is and can do, it is a very unassuming lump of beige meat.
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Tricks & Home
I used to be a neat person. I used to care for order and
beauty in my home. I used to buy flowers. The summer before moving into my
apartment I researched blogs, magazines, and design books to compile a style
for my new dwelling. I scoured vintage shops and local ads for curious furniture,
to be both artistic and environmentally conscientious. I found paintings of
young, poor artists to adorn the walls of my spacious, New York style
apartment, 400 square feet in all. But
now, I live like a hoarder, all I’m missing is a few cat skeletons and
compulsion to call my stacks of notes “my babies.”
Med school housing takes two distinct paths: obsessively
clean or post-tornado messy. The cleanliness does not come from a positive
situation, however. To avoid studying, to channel anxiety, to use up insomnia
time, some people clean. Others, my people, we just leave everything where it
drops and each time an inkling to organize comes to us we simply claim we have
absolutely no time. Of course much of study time is actually spent on facebook
or other internet ventures. Still, we have absolutely no time. Both factions
are extremes, and neither is healthy.
I don’t actually like living like a reality show special so
I have devised a clever trick to force myself to clean. I invite friends over
for dinner. See, I am too Russian to allow anyone ever see my house in anything
but photo shoot quality condition. I have been indoctrinated with a policy of pristineness
for oneself and one’s things. The most effective technique is to invite someone
I’m not wholly close with, someone I would be embarrassed to show imperfections
to. This ensures that I don’t give up
half way through and just stuff all my laundry into my closet or hide it within
shoes boxes (still occupied with shoes) under my bed. Yes,
this is what I have to do to myself to still live in sanity.
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Before beginning my first year of medical school I had
promised myself an ongoing memoir of that first year. It seems I am a liar. Two
weeks to the finish line and I have just begun, likely using writing as a more respectable
method of procrastination than say, watching old cartoons. In truth, this is
the first moment I feel inspired to say something other than a melodramatic complaint.
First year is an experience much like I imagine war is: so singular, so grandiose,
so awful, that not even a person with the most eloquent tongue could ever truly
explain it – so now, ladies and gentlemen I’m going to try.
Med school: not a place anyone is ever prepared for. Before
it began, I had imagined an obscene amount of work and memorization. That part,
as best as I could, I anticipated, but the rest, the intangible darkness that
slowly strokes its victims with notes of sadness, self-doubt, and hopelessness until
all that exists is despair in a shell of one’s former self, that friends, I was
as prepared for as getting hit by a train. Not only are you hit by the train,
but you are expected to maintain enough composure to climb into said train.
One of the professors during the orientation week compared
medical school to drinking out of a fire hydrant, the water signifying the
information we are asked to learn. We will discuss what I believe to be the
deadly flaw in modern medical education at a later time, but for now we shall briefly
address the workload. It is a lot. More than you can imagine; more than I can imagine, because even right now at
the end of my first year I did not learn all that I “must” have learned by this
point. There were many days that I was certain the information was increasing
my intracranial pressure. But that is inevitable and ultimately conquerable, unlike
the smoke monster, also known as interpersonal relations.
Fellow med students are both the cause of and solution to
most of medical school life problems. So let’s begin with the fact that one
must have friends and support, and sadly there are many moments where one would
rather crawl into a damp moldy cave and become a troglobite than have to speak
to another soul in one’s class. Even more sadly those moments dominate class
time. School is hard, obviously, and each person reacts differently to the
stress. Some turn into aggressive beasts, others cry incessantly, others turn
into hermits, and others still, become sociopaths. At any given moment nearly
half of the class indisposed with some psychiatric ailment, although no one
will admit that. Admitting it would mean responsibility of ameliorating the
illness, and that is an unacceptable amount of energy directed away from
studying.
Being in medical school is like being in a zoo for
psychiatrically disturbed animals that all have to share one large cage and
have a limited amount of food, so they quickly turn on each other. The worst aspect
is it is absolutely impossible to successfully avoid people for more than 2
days. There is always something: small group, a mandatory class, a standardized
patient encounter or simply commitments to a study group that at this point I
am displeased I joined. So here I am, an only child with traces of avoidant
personality disorder and social anxiety, permanently forced to be with people who
can only make matters worse.
At this point dear deader I’m sure you’ve asked yourself about
my supposed lack of complaint, but indeed I am not complaining because now,
unlike many points during the year, I am happy to be a med student and I do not
feel a heavy woe. I am simply divulging
the ugly truth of all medical education, no matter the country or the year.
Along the way, in my deep focus on academics I had lost a
big part of myself, the most important part: my soul. It was taken, but I did nothing
to resist. But that is the inherent nature of the thing. When attempting to not
drown in a yearlong tsunami with only a poorly constructed raft at one’s rescue
it is easy to lose sight of anything but the next approaching wave. Everyone
and their mother speak of the importance of balance. However, that is possibly the most useless
advice ever uttered because the only way to have any understanding of that
balance is to completely lose it. So now, near the end I finally approach that
balance and gain back my soul, my joy and interest in things. Being in medical school
is like being depressed. I went through the motions with duty but had no real
emotions attached to anything. Except the occasional outburst of crushing
sadness or sharp anger, I was numb. And now, as I am approaching the shore, I
feel exponentially more joy in the things I used to love before.
This place changed me. It has at times made me much more,
and at times much less myself. And now I do not know what I really am, just
that I’m different. There came a moment
during studying a very long lecture on the pathology of bone cancers, that the
slides, x-rays and cases are not just theory. Each of those is a real person
that has suffered from the disease and the sadness of that truth is
overwhelming.
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